Summary
In this episode, Relationship Coach, Lucy Price, brings to light the mindset shifts that come with feeling like love is hard to come by. We talk about searching for evidence of love, the different types of excitement with a new relationship, how to feel loveable, seeing people for who they really are and what they are capable of, and knowing your worth. This is a jam packed episode filled with incredible knowledge centered around your own beliefs!
Key Takeaways:
- Shake up your belief around love being hard by searching for evidence that it is easy and it does exist
- Navigating the discomfort between something new and something familiar, but toxic
- Are butterflies a red flag or healthy excitement?
- The different ways not being loveable can surface in your life and the negative talk, side comments, jokes you make that highlights this belief
- People show you who they are and what they’re capable of – invest in the relationships that invest in you
- Niche in your love life as you do with business
- Plan out the steps required to leave your relationship and what life will look like
- Where are you choosing to be single?
Why does it feel like everyone is in love but me?
Social media makes it look like everyone else got their love handed to them, but nobody was picked to be left out. It also helps to check your belief that love is hard. Your brain works to prove whatever you already believe, so it filters for evidence that dating is awful. Try shaking that belief by 2%. Look for examples, in your life or other people’s, where love came easily. Also ask yourself where you might be closing off connection, like staying home, keeping your head down at the coffee shop, or skipping chances to talk to new people.
Is this the wrong person, or does a healthy relationship just feel unfamiliar?
If you’re used to a rollercoaster of highs and lows, stability can feel flat or even scary at first. Ask yourself whether it feels off because it’s new, or because you’re missing the adrenaline. Try creating excitement that doesn’t come from fear or uncertainty, like more connection, trust, and joyful plans. Don’t ignore compatibility either. A relationship can be good without being good for you. And butterflies alone don’t tell you much. Check how safe and secure you feel with this person and in yourself.
How do I know if I'm staying in a relationship because I'm afraid of being alone?
Get underneath the fear. Keep asking yourself “why” until you reach the real belief, like what being single would mean about you. Then look at the trade-off, because staying in the wrong relationship can cost you your happiness, your living situation, and the life you actually want. If it’s not just relationship anxiety, try mapping out what leaving would look like, from where you’d live to how you’d split things up. That can show you whether it’s the relationship or the logistics that’s holding you back. It also helps to keep an emergency fund of your own so money is never the reason you stay.
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