Summary
In this episode, I bring on Gabby and Sean to discuss how they’ve worked to cultivate a healthy relationship. Throughout our conversation we break down what it means to be in a relationship that’s healthy, how to show up for one another, the importance of communication, and how to support each other’s goals and ambitions. If you are single or questioning the health of your relationship, then please use this episode as a guide to help you gather what your needs are and where you can improve in your love life.
Key Takeaways:
- Importance of communication in your relationship
- How to handle arguments or disagreements
- Knowing your attachment style and how it shows up in your relationship will make it easier to be there for one another
- 3 pieces of advice to creating a healthy relationship
- It’s the little things that make the biggest different when it comes to communicating to your partner’s love languages
What does a healthy relationship actually look like?
It’s feeling comfortable being every version of yourself, good days and bad, without fear of judgment. You trust that your partner will show up consistently no matter what. There’s no single “right” definition. If it feels healthy to you and you trust your gut, that’s usually a good sign. It also helps to have dated around beforehand so you’re clear on what you do and don’t want.
How do you handle disagreements without it turning into a fight?
Speak up when something bothers you instead of letting it build. Try to step back from the emotion first, ask yourself why it’s actually bothering you, and remember you’re on the same team, not opponents. A simple reminder like “we’re solving this together” can defuse tension fast. And when you do bring something up, lead with a question instead of an accusation, like “are you running late?” instead of “where are you?”
How do you keep a relationship interesting after the honeymoon phase?
Keep dating each other on purpose. Small things count, like a compliment, a thoughtful item from the grocery store, or trying something new together. Protect a regular chunk of time each week, even just a couple hours, so you’re not only hanging out when it happens to work out. Being open to trying new things together, big or small, keeps you learning about each other.
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